Wednesday, April 27, 2005

Post Secret

Interesting blog... check it~

Post Secret


From the Washingtonian...


What’s Your Secret?

Everyone has a secret to tell. That is the idea behind Frank Warren’s art project, “Postsecret.”

The project started this past November when Warren, a Germantown artist, distributed 3,000 postcards at the beginning of Artomatic, a month-long independent art show in DC. The cards asked people to anonymously “reveal anything, so long as it is true and you’ve never shared it with anyone before.’’ The secrets, Warren added, “can be a regret, fear, betrayal, desire, confession, or childhood humiliation.” As cards trickled back—about 150 were returned—Warren posted them in an exhibit at Artomatic. They caught the eye of Georgetown gallery owner Anne Fisher, who created an ongoing exhibition at her Anne C. Fisher Gallery (1054 31st St., NW; www.annecfishergallery.com). The cards are now archived on Warren’s blog (www.postsecret.com).

The secrets—many written on elaborately decorated postcards—range from funny (“I would like to party with the Bush twins”) to dark (“I talked someone into suicide”). Several of Warren’s own secrets are scattered throughout the project. He says the blog is a safe place for self-expression, where nobody’s passing judgment. It’s gotten over 250,000 hits, and the postcards are still coming in.

Although most of the postcards are from the DC area, some have come from California, New York, Massachusetts, and Australia. Warren gets requests, mostly from art students and bartenders, for stacks of blank cards to pass out to their friends.

The colorful and creative postcards are so different that it can be hard to pick a favorite. Anne Fisher’s favorite reads, “I love one of my children” in four different colors of crayon. According to Warren’s blog, he lost his favorite postcard before anyone else saw it: “The card was filled with two vertical lists of grocery items: milk, cheese, chicken, etc. But squeezed in the lower left corner was a more revealing admission: ‘I am still struggling with what I’ve become.’ ”

Visit Postsecret.com to pick your own favorite—or share a secret of your own. Mail a 4-by-6 postcard with your secret to:

PostSecret
13345 Copper Ridge Rd.
Germantown, MD 20874

—MARY CLARE FLEURY

The Invisible Woman

Love this.

The Invisible Woman

by Alicia L. Cervini

I am a human being, and as such I am full of intricacies and contradictions. Gentle and harsh, loud and quiet, selfish and giving, brilliant and stupid, interested and bored, caring and indifferent - these are all me, for better or for worse.

I am also a woman, but I am the invisible woman, because the women I see in movies, commercials and magazines are not like me. I don't relate to what these women want, how they feel, how they act, or why they do the things they do. They have only one dimension; not two or three or four or five. According to our culture, I must not exist, because I don't fit into any of the boxes marked "WOMAN."

I am a woman. And I don't want to get married. I have trouble with commitment. I am not interested in the size of engagement rings, nor am I particularly interested in ever wearing one.

I am a woman. And I love sex. Not only that, but I'm VISUAL. That's right, men, you don't corner the market on being stimulated visually. I never have a headache.

I am a woman. And I hate to shop. I would much rather stay home and play video games.

I am a woman. And I am brilliant. I love to debate and I hate to lose. I never pretend not to know something that I do.

I am a woman. And I don't want to be taken care of. I'll always have my own job, my own checkbook and my own friends.

I am a woman. And I am analytical, not emotional. I always try to draw my emotional battles onto the intellectual battleground.

I am a woman, and all these things are true. And yet, I love high-heeled shoes. I always ask my boyfriend "what are you thinking." I cry at the movies. I hate football. I like to cuddle. I like English better than math. I always wear make-up. I love N'Sync. I watch Home and Garden Television. I like to embroider. I want to have children. I have long hair. I read my horoscope. I drink herbal tea. And it pisses me off when men leave the seat up.

Because I am a woman, but I am also a person, and these things are not contradictory unless you believe what our culture tells you women are "supposed" to be. You don't have to be a femme fatale, a bitch, a mother, a whore, a wife, a virgin, a teacher or a girl. Be all of them; be none of them; be some of them. Be what you are. Like what you like. You may be a woman, but you are also a person. Your gender is nothing but your sex; it doesn't define who you are.

I am a woman. The woman I am may not exist in our popular culture, but I am here. I may be invisible, but I am here. And so are you...whoever you are and whatever you do...no matter what you see around you.

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Friday, April 22, 2005

blah.

I'm having a really bad day today. Sometimes I wish I could go back 20 years and just start over again. I've made some really stupid mistakes in my life and I just want a chance to do things right!

Going to have some tea and contemplate sticking my head in the oven.

Wednesday, April 20, 2005

Weightless and free

I LOVE being in the water. I loved it as a child, and somehow... forgot. I made it to the pool for the second time this week. I relish the feeling of weightlessness, the way the water muffles all sound, the way the water invigorates every inch of my body as it touches my skin. In the water, I have complete freedom. The one and only time of most days that I am not being a mommy or wife. The only time of the day when I'm not picking up, folding, cooking, washing and worrying.

Last week I decided I wasn't going to get out. I eventually shriveled up like a prune, and sullenly removed my water logged body from the pool, only to feel like I weighed 5 tons. It was SO far to the showers I almost didn't make it. But luckily for me, the hottub provided a much needed resting place in the long journey to the locker room.

If I could afford daycare 7 days a week to get to my class, I would do it.

*note* Time spent blogging does NOT count as "me" time because at any moment I may be interrupted with news of a fire in the kitchen, a lost weeble or demands for lunch "before I die".

This I believe

I am adding this site to my links section. Thank you for the suggestion Andrew

This I Believe

Know Thyself

Who am I really?

I am... a loving wife, a good mother, an unemployed scientist, too nice, unmotivated, losing my spirituality, overweight, a smoker, a good daughter, not aggressive enough, addicted to my computer, not social enough, not a good friend, a financial mess.

Labels. They do not describe who I am, they only describe how I feel about myself at this point in my life.

Embracing change isn't about changing who I am. It is about understanding what my beliefs are and holding myself accountable for the choices I've made and for the choices I will make.

Dr. Phil's Life Law #2

I like Dr. Phil. He'll tell it to you straight every time. I need to hear this... everyday.

Life Law #2: You create your own experience.
Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life. Understand your role in creating results.

You cannot dodge responsibility for how and why your life is the way it is. If you don't like your job, you are accountable. If you are overweight, you are accountable. If you are not happy, you are accountable. You are creating the situations you are in and the emotions that flow from those situations.

Don't play the role of victim, or use past events to build excuses. It guarantees you no progress, no healing, and no victory. You will never fix a problem by blaming someone else. Whether the cards you've been dealt are good or bad, you're in charge of yourself now.

Every choice you make — including the thoughts you think — has consequences. When you choose the behavior or thought, you choose the consequences. If you choose to stay with a destructive partner, then you choose the consequences of pain and suffering. If you choose thoughts contaminated with anger and bitterness, then you will create an experience of alienation and hostility. When you start choosing the right behavior and thoughts — which will take a lot of discipline — you'll get the right consequences.

Tuesday, April 19, 2005

What I know for Sure

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"You become what you believe - not what you wish or want but what you truly believe. Wherever you are in life, look at your beliefs. They put you there" - Oprah Winfrey September 2000